Starting the divorce process can be tough, but being well-prepared for your first meeting with a divorce lawyer can make things a bit easier. Here’s a simple guide on how to get ready and what to bring to ensure your meeting goes smoothly.
Important Papers to Gather
Before meeting with your lawyer, you should collect some important documents. These will help your lawyer understand your financial situation and what needs to be discussed, especially regarding money matters like support payments or splitting assets. Make sure you have:
- Your Tax Returns: These can show what you and your spouse earn and can help figure out support payments.
- Details of Any retirement Plans: These are usually big assets and show a clear picture of your finances.
- Bank and Investment Statements: These show how much money you have right now.
- Any Prenup or Postnup Agreements: If you have agreements made before or after you got married, bring them.
- Credit Card Statements and Pay Stubs: These help show how much debt you have and what you both earn.
- Deeds to Property You Own: If you own any property, the deeds show who owns what.
Writing Down Your Story and Questions
It’s also good to write down some information about yourself, your marriage, and any big issues that might affect your divorce. This could include:
- A Timeline of Your Marriage: Important events that led to your decision to get a divorce.
- Information About Your Kids: If you have any, to talk about custody and support.
- Any Previous Marriages: Some details might be relevant if this isn’t your first divorce.
- The Big Issues You’re Facing: These include who gets the house, how to split money, and issues about your business.
- Other Challenges: Things like substance abuse, a history of abuse, or criminal records.
Make sure you label these notes as private information meant only for your lawyer. Sending these notes before your meeting can help your lawyer prepare to talk to you.
Questions You Should Ask
You’ll also have a chance to ask your lawyer questions during this first meeting. Think about what you want to know and make a list. You might want to ask about:
- Their Experience: What kind of divorce cases have they handled?
- Costs: How much will their services cost you?
- Thoughts on Mediation: Do they think mediation could work for you?
- Anything else: Do you have any other worries or questions about the divorce process?
Preparing for this meeting can help you feel more in control and less anxious about what’s ahead. By bringing the right documents and knowing what questions to ask, you can make this first step as smooth as possible.
Carolyn Bellof
Carolyn Bellof is a Certified Family Law Specialist in North Carolina. She brings empathy and a personal understanding of loss and resilience to her clients, ensuring their legal needs are protected during emotionally challenging family law proceedings.
Prepare for your journey with a well-planned first meeting with a divorce lawyer. Gather your documents and list your questions. Contact us today to schedule your initial consultation. Let's make this step as smooth as possible for you.
